Kings Cross 1- Before Nightfall

It had already been a long day after barely any sleep- waking up  at an unearthly hour, an  early morning  flight out of  Melbourne, the drive into  Lakemba experience and an informal debrief. The  Shawrma & Hummus lunch was a welcome change, but by the time the car slowed down, we could see the it’s magic- all of us were  drowsy and quiet.
At first glance it looked like a slightly drab shop-lined  part of Sydney, a bit like many touristy places in the off-season.
Aaron’s  “Welcome to King’s Cross” threw me off. Was this the  locale of  ‘Underbelly’ from some years back?  It looked seedy but completely  lacked the edginess that the TV series depicted. Maybe I had the names mixed up.
Joe introduced us to Kings Cross. He didn’t tell us much. We were asked to walk around a bit and get a feel of  the place. For a minute I got the feeling that he was going to give Mahima some money to go buy some ‘specified’ fare, but then he changed his mind.
It was late afternoon. It seemed like a relaxed kind of place- McDonalds rubbing shoulders with shops of the McAdult variety, Boho’s sharing  beer and chips with drunken women, dollar souvenirs sharing space with smutty literature, homeless people with earplugs looking up at the blue sky, beggars politely asking for ..
Just a few minutes in, this is the conversation that occurred:
Polite (This being a big change from the persistent whining beggars back home) stoned beggar – “Can you lend me a dollar mate.”
One of us gives him a couple of dollars and some change we still haven’t figured out. He just stands there looking at us. We try to pretend he’s not there.
Gurmeet: In Hindi- “Lend? Does he intend to return it?”
Mahima: Hindi -“Paagal hai….?  You mad? It’s a  polite way of begging.”
Gurmeet: Hindi- “I like the beggars in Australia.. “
Mahi: Hindi- “Charsi hai yar- He’s stoned, mate..”
Gurmeet- Hindi- “…..”
Mahima- Hindi “…..” Back & forth- assessing the beggar’s politeness, degree of stoned-ness (for lack of a better word) and modus operandi.
The baffled doped beggar gives up hopes for a bigger loan, looks at us and shouts as he walks away-“You crazy Abo’s stoned out of yer brains, aren’t ya!!” Then turns back- “You drunk f*** Wogs, I got that wrong!”
This was the second time that day we’d heard a racial slur. It wouldn’t be the last. (The first was in an airport shop that morning when a white woman looked across at an Asian woman struggling to quieten her  bawling baby and said loud enough for her to hear- “….Slit-eyed c***” )

A short while later, Mahima was  on camera.
Joe- “Mahima, what are your views on  sex education?”
Mahima- “There is growing awareness about this issue in our schools & colleges too. I believe it is very important… In fact even the strippers here have a right to their occupation. It is a step in the right direction, etc…. “

Camera off. Mahima looks at us and winks. “Was I good!”
We all smile. She was.
Just like her response at seeing the $300 tag on a life-sized doll  in the display of an adult shop: “Toys are so costly in Australia! Aussies must really spoil their kids…but how can children enjoy playing with such big toys!”
Amer: “Nice one Mahima!”
Gurmeet: “Why are we here? It’s boring. They should get us to check-in first…”
Mahima: “I would have bought one of these pretty dolls  for my 4 year old niece if it was cheaper and smaller.”
Amer: “Buy me one Mahi! I would myself, but I’ve bust all the money I had.”
With some special Aussie hospitality via a section of our crew, effectively, Melbourne had been Amer’s (Kings) Cross.

Amer & I checked-in only after our somber meeting  with Dr Fulde at St Vincent. We came out shaken-up after he shared their experiences of saving lives on a regular weekend night: Dealing with aggressive drug overdosers, victims of drunken glassing, fixing broken bones, stitching up wounds, mending broken skulls, gunshot wounds, literally putting together body parts that have been ripped apart- all connected to people under the influence of alcohol or illegal drugs- while calmly listening to them abuse, curse, show physical aggression and swear violently at the staff attending to them. He talked about the demons that testosterone brought out-how the the abuse of drugs & alcohol fueled an aggression that turned normal human beings into monsters who didn’t think twice before causing another human being the gravest harm.
The encounter left Amer & I  with the deepest admiration and respect for the doctor and his medical staff. It also left me staring starkly at the difference between a first world country and mine, highlighting how incredibly lucky Australians  are and how much they take for granted. To be fair, why wouldn’t they? It is natural to believe &  claim it as a right unless you’ve experienced differently.
Most of our reactions in the debrief that followed did not make the final cut. These were mine:
In India, drug/ substance  abusers in a brawl/ fight would be bleeding in a police locker,  slapped (at the least) really hard until they stopped the rant, and sent a couple of days later to a rehab center- where it’s another hell waiting (without any gentle doctors & nurses, with the barest infrastructure and definitely not much empathy), unless it is a private one which would have a high fee, and so very few people would have access to it.
With such poor infrastructure & resources and millions needing medical  care, drug addicts are really the lowest in the priority for any medical emergency. Yes, we have  drug abuse in India too, especially high in some states (mostly  arising out of  poverty), and awful as it may sound, there is a stoic  attitude of “Put him in that corner. If a nurse finds time, she will attend to him/ bandage him up, but the police have to  take him back to the locker
But the lockers may also be full, so he is out on his own on the streets  or… I don’t know what eventually  happens to him. The poor family takes him back  and has to deal with the addict and his violence, but also the  ‘shame’ of having an addict relative. Besides, they don’t have the money to pay for his habit/ rehab…and  eventually they are forced to  give up on him. These substance abusers become the millions of faceless people in dark places, unseen, uncared for. Basically there is the underlying attitude- “He is an addict- he deserves nothing much.” …. and then I mentally go back to St Vincents and it’s facilities and all the other free-flowing advantages- all of which (in spite of the excellent doctors and hospitals) are just a dream for our country’s nameless millions. Why? The resources and the terrifyingly huge population just don’t match up.
That experience at St Vincent also gave me a glimpse of  why people from war-torn and politically scarred  countries put their lives at grave risk and do whatever it takes to somehow reach Australian shores. Who wouldn’t mind being killed in that process of becoming a Boat person/ illegal immigrant/ any label.. if their family could get a chance to live in that small piece of heaven- when you come from places like Afghanistan, parts of Africa and the Middle East and a host of other countries where hell  is  just the only way of life. I wouldn’t think twice. Every risk would be worth it.

As we walked back to the hotel in the dark, the genial (if seedy) Kings Cross of the afternoon had become something else.  It was noisy, rowdy, crowded and definitely more sleazy at night- bright neon lights contrasting with dimly lit bars, prostitutes and bouncers standing around and dingy clubs proclaiming adult-related business. It’s mixture of charm &  sleeze reminded me of Pat-Pong in Bangkok. Charm? We walked through a  street with trendy  cafe’s and restaurants with outdoor seating and an interesting menu on offer.

It was already a 16 hour day, but if I had any hopes of  sinking into my bed, those were quickly dashed. An all-dressed-up Mahima and Gurmeet were full of questions- “Where were you both? Why are you so late? How was it?” and Mahima had plans-“It looks exciting out there.. dress up quickly, we must go out tonight..and we haven’t eaten since afternoon.”
She had just  discovered that for the first time since we’ve started this journey, none of the crew were staying with us at night- they all lived in Sydney and had left us in Jon’s care.
Amer mumbled something that sounded like “I’m tired and  sleepy” and slinked off somewhere.
Before I could tell her it wasn’t looking all that safe out there and I wasn’t about to go looking for trouble, she was gone looking for Amer.

I was wary of us  sampling Kings Cross alone at night. Mahi, on the other hand was persistent. Luckily for me, Jon had this to say-
(Very serious expression and a stern voice) “Mahima, Aaron has given me strict orders that I cannot, I repeat, CANNOT allow the Indians to go out at night while we are here. I can however go get you all a pizza for dinner.
These were our reactions:
Mine:  Aaron, director ji, if you really said this, I feel so much love for you!
Gurmeet: Looking relieved. “Okayokayokay, but we can’t just eat pizza everyday…”
Mahima: Argue Argue Argue ..and then  “and Jon, how will you know we won’t creep out at night, huh, tell me!!”
Jon: (Pulling himself up and pulling out  his terribly officious British accent) “Mahima, WE  have our ways. You Indian’s have secret trackers on you. I can’t say more”
Mahima looked a bit worried now. “Jon, can you  track us everywhere? You sure?” (Then to me in Hindi- “Bathroom too you think? Did you read the contract? I’m worried…”) “Ok  Jon, because we don’t want you to get into trouble with Aaron, we’ll just stay here. Just because it’s Aaron, okay..”
Jon & I looked at each other & I mouthed a thank-you.
Mahima was  placated only when Gurmeet and I agreed to spend time at the hotel bar instead. She asked for Champagne, but reluctantly settled for her fav pom-poms instead. (Those are Breezers, right?) Her constaint refrain was “Amer had to choose tonight to feel sleepy. I would have gone ..”
The bar looked onto a noisy dimly lit narrow street. We were looking directly into a tacky strip bar. In fact, we were looking into several of them. They all had prostitutes posing outside the dark smoky premises, many of whom looked around sixteen. Intimidating bouncers lounged around them. We could see them haggle fiercely to fix a price each time a customer stopped and showed interest, after which they were led into the dark, only to emerge as  shadowy silhouettes on the floors above.
It was almost voyeuristic, this experience of looking into another world from across the road- all this going on right across while we sat sipping our drinks and pointing out the action outside and listening to the crazy-but-true stories the barman recounted.
We saw fights break out, a bouncer slap a prostitute really hard a couple of times as if to wake her up, visitors pour a bottle of something on another persons head leading to a brawl, visitors being roughed up and herded out of a strip bar, a couple of girls retching right in the middle of the street, drunken tourists try to kiss  a couple of really young looking boys dressed like prostitutes after which they just dropped their skirts and roughed them up…. and then we saw someone in a red hoodie walking leisurely across where we sat. It was Amer!

Next post: Kings Cross After Dark & Other Scary Tales

14 responses to “Kings Cross 1- Before Nightfall”

  1. Interesting to get another perspective. We need the comparisons every so often to jolt us into the real world. I live in Potts Point but feel quite safe walking from station to my building though I am a bit over the drunken late night crowds.

    • What were the differences in perspective, mine and someone who lives there? Would love to know…
      Thanks a lot for stopping to read & write in.

  2. “It also left me staring starkly at the difference between a first world country and mine, highlighting how incredibly lucky Australians are and how much they take for granted. To be fair, why wouldn’t they? It is natural to believe & claim it as a right unless you’ve experienced differently”

    I think this is a very succinct summary of the major reasons behind the close-minded attitude of some (many?) Australians – until my first trip overseas (years ago now) I never realised just how lucky we are to live in this amazing country – I remember going out to celebrate the New Years fireworks in Sydney shortly after I returned and being sickened by the drunken behaviour and comments of the Aussies near by. But if you grow up thinking the Australian lifestyle is a normal and natural right, and you never travel anywhere else, then it’s probably not surprising if you fail to show compassion and tolerance to people from other countries…sad and ignorant but not surprising.

    Love your blog Radhika – I didn’t see the show, but it’s obvious from your writing that you’re a very intelligent and thoughtful person!

    Cheers, Emily

    • Hi Emily, I sometimes wonder if this blog makes sense if you haven’t watched the show- I’m so glad to know you’re enjoying the blog despite..
      You are so kind!I don’t know if I am any of the things you say, but I just try to be honest to what I felt & experienced. It was such an amazing journey & I learnt so much even about myself. Thank you very much for reading the blog & stopping to write here. Cheers!

  3. Wow wat a cliff hanger! My hubby n I watched the show months ago so I can’t remember what Amer was up to…sorry Mahima missed out! Good on her for being so adventurous 🙂 did she still want to go out after your front row seats to all the action?

    • Aarti- Haha. She did! It was the 1st time she had left home ever.. and was so excited. Glad to know you watched DDR. Thanks for reading the blog & for writing here. 🙂
      They didn’t show us at Kings Cross at all in the final cut, except Amer & I with Dr Fulde.

    • When publishers say they like your narration- it’s encouraging! Thank you for reading the post & for your writing here, Dr Sahab.

  4. Great post again, Radhika. “The Cross” is a vile place. I haven’t been there (though I was in “Potts Point” for dinner just over a week ago on a trip to Sydney) for about 20 years. I have some horrible memories of that place. You describe it very well.

    • Jody-When I was writing this post I thought our reactions may seem very Indian in their perspective, but I’ve received so much feedback from Aussies since morning saying exactly what you’ve said. For us, we went into it without a clue about what to expect, pretty much in keeping with the rest of our Aussie adventure!
      Thank you for your kind words & for stopping to write here!

    • I feel the same Diane. If it is Sydney’s official red-light district, it’s tackier than those in many first world countries.
      Thank you for reading & stopping by. How are you doing?

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